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The intersection of grief and loneliness is complicated. Though loneliness, as a concept, is one I think many assume we understand. The trouble is that loneliness is subjective i.
I want to note; the above definition says nothing about the state of being alone. Instead, that loneliness is a feeling of discomfort that arises when a person subjectively feels unfulfilled by their social relationships. Individual loneliness is defined by what a person wants in relation to what they have. There are aspects of grief that make loneliness seem inevitable and unsolvable.
People who are grieving are at a disadvantage when it comes to loneliness because the person they long for is gone. When they left this Earth, they took pieces of your shared life with them, and now you have to live a life that feels incomplete. And as you might expect, this perpetuates feelings of loneliness. It takes time and effort. Instead, you have to find other ways to connect and fill in alternative spaces. How do you do this? I guess I would say that, when you are ready, open yourself up to the love of people in your life.
You can hold on to your loved one, while at the same time, accepting the company and support of others. And maybe, if necessary, seeking out new people in the process. Subscribe to stay up to date on all our posts.
Holly August 7, at pm Reply. I just lost my mom on August 1st. She was my rock, my best friend, we lived together and went basically almost everywhere together. Isabelle Siegel August 10, at am Reply. I wish I could say something to take your pain away. You are not alone in this; We are here to show you that. I know you said money is a bit tight, but have you tried looking for a counselor trained in grief and bereavement?
Jayme September 8, at am Reply. I am truly so sorry very for your loss. I wish we all had something to fill the enormous voids we feel after our loved one has passed. For me, I am finding some comfort in hearing others tell their stories. I am seeing a therapist and looking into a grief group. I will share a bit in hopes that you know you are not alone.
My situation is similar to yours. She just turned 73 in July. My daughter turned 9 a week before my mom had sudden respiratory failure that lead to cardiac arrest. She was entirely healthy prior to this.
It all happened so fast. My mom lived with me and helped raise my daughter. She made my baby breakfast in the mornings, picked her up from school in the afternoons, and ate dinner with us. We were so close. I would leave the house in the mornings, having just spoke to my mom, and still call her on my drive to work.
She was my rock, my anchor, best friend and advisor. Being so young and thinking of how long I will have to live without my mom is so so painful. My heart aches for my daughter who is experiencing pain too deep for a 9 year old. But I look into my little ones eyes and know that I want to give her everything my mom gave to me. I have to push on for her. You suffered one of the biggest loss you will ever face. This pain is sharp and crushing.
The physical heartache feels unbearable sometimes.
I keep reminding myself that it only hurts this much because my mom loved me so much. And this is the price I pay for her love, and all that she gave to me. I know she would not want to see me in pain, so I trudge through.
Wishing you healing and peace. Shawn Sushynski August 6, at am Reply. I came across this looking for help and a better understanding of how to deal with this. I have nobody left really. My pops passed away on May 31 from sudden pancreatic cancer. He was completely full of life at the beginning of the year then 5 months later hes gone. Im battling the worst pain ive ever felt along with having the loneliness that weights me down. Im not sure how to flip it around and it scares me. I was already diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression and now that i lost my last remaining pieces to my family with all my grandparents gone and now my dad gone i feel like im stuck in a dark hole.
Im 30 years old and have a lot of life ahead of me the only thing is now its harder to see it. Im sorry to all the people who commented about their loved ones that are in the same hole. Hopefully we can all get better. All get healthy again. Marcia July 9, at pm Reply. Covid took my vibrant, full of life mother like a thief in the night.
My family waited a week in agonizing fear without losing hope or the ability to lean on one another. I talked to her the day she was admitted to the hospital, and just hours later she started to decline. They put her on a ventilator less than 24 hours later. I hang on to every word we spoke that last conversation, but every day I want MORE, more advice, more encouragement, more of her voice. Like becoming a mom! Thank you for this article, it has brought a lot of insight to my grieving heart. Delsha July 24, at pm Reply. And she was good before she did that.
Organs start to shut down. I am 41 years old with a younger brother that is 23 years old. And the know that the Covid 19 is a respiratory infection that effect your breathing. And that is what it start to do with my mom. After she took the second part of the test. Henry Ford killed my mother and her doctor. She was not to get vaccinated in her condition. It was not my mother time, and she was only 64 and was doing good with her Chemo.Lonely ass hell
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